A subset of gray romanticism (“between aromantic and alloromantic”).
Idem means “the same” in Latin.
TL;DR: Internally experiences romantic and platonic attraction similarly; categorizes relationships and feelings as romantic or platonic based on factors other than presence or lack of romantic attraction
Definition: Categorizes relationships and feelings as platonic or romantic but experiences no notable internal differences. They may categorize certain relationships as romantic instead of platonic based on age, personality compatibility, emotional closeness, ease of living together, presence of sexual attraction, or other factors. But their feelings toward their romantic interests would not be particularly distinguishable from platonic feelings and may be similar to how they feel for a best friend or beloved family member. They may pursue platonic, quasiplatonic, romantic, or no relationships.
Idem can be a modifier (“I’m idem-homoromantic”) or its own thing (“I’m idemromantic”). “Idemro” is the shortened version (as well as “grayro”).
Metacommentary below the cut for whiners.
I am afraid of getting older. I am afraid of getting married. Spare me from cooking three meals a day—spare me from the relentless cage of routine and rote. I want to be free… I want, I want to think, to be omniscient.Sylvia Plath written in 1949 at age 17. (via words-and-coffee)